情感成熟的人有三个特点:能为自己负责、有适应能力(adaptability)、能给予他人而非仅仅索取(Alexander,1967;Allen,21)。然而,讨好者并不能为自己负责,他们只能聆听、求取他人的建议并依照他人的要求/指导来行动和思考。
对不习惯拒绝的讨好者们来说,有一些方法可以让他们练习和学会拒绝(Braiker,21)。
Allen,R.(21).HowtoBecomeEmotionallyMature.
Braiker,H.(20).Thediseasetoplease:Curingthepeople-pleasingsyndrome.NewYork:McGraw-Hill.
Morin,A.(25).5signsyou’retryingtoohardtopleaseeveryone.
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